Thursday, April 30, 2015

May 2015 Preeclampsia Awareness Month

It's that time of year again.  The time in which I roll out the red carpet for preeclampsia awareness.  In reality, I do that all year long; however there is always a highlight that happens in May.  May is designated as Preeclampsia Awareness Month (#PreAM) and also happens to be the month in both my preeclampsia babies were born.

Quick recap....
Baby 1 - HELLP Syndrome (class I) at 34w5d; Ariana is born weighing 4lbs and spends 18 days in the hospital.
Baby 2 - Gestational hypertension at 32 weeks, induced at 37 weeks with a preeclampsia diagnosis. My BP upon check-in that morning was 200/100. Phoenix was born weighing 5lb6oz and got to come home with us two days later.

I've been involved with the Preeclampsia Foundation since late 2003 and volunteering for over 10 years now.  In that time, I've had the honor and priviledge of meeting some incredible individuals who make a difference each day in the lives of moms & babies and individuals who have lost their loved ones (sometimes a baby, sometimes a mom, sometimes babies, sometimes mom & baby).

So, don't know what I'm talking about?  You didn't know moms could get really sick during pregnancy?  Need to know more?  Be sure to check out www.preeclampsia.org.

Do it.  Right now.  You can come back here later and visit.

Tuesday, March 24, 2015

time flies

Time flies when one is adventuring in life, doesn't it.  Things are settling down after some bumpy times, that includes me, which is a wonderful thing.  I've had some terrific opportunities that I am so thankful for and along with that has come the support of my loved ones.

Wednesday, January 14, 2015

Monday, January 12, 2015

Time for me to fly

In an effort to take care of myself, I've started tracking my food and exercise in My Fitness Pal.  I've tried off and on before, but would log info for a day or two and then forget about it.  Well, I'm a week in and haven't skipped a day yet.  Only two of those days, I was over my calories.  One of them was but about 50 calories and the other was a total loss, which I acknowledged.  It was a day when emotional eating 100% took hold and I am aware of it.  

With sticking with this for a week, it has already caused a few moments where I checked my calorie intake for the day before making a food choice.  And it has helped.  So, I'm going to also try and write about my journey as well.  Figured it's time for me to fly and just put it out there. 

At my highest weight, I weighed 244 lbs.  This was almost a year ago.  Currently, I've been hanging out between 235-238; however with some of the changes over the last few weeks and being honest with myself about why I'm eating, I have lost a few pounds and at my last weigh-in was 232 lbs. 

This journey isn't about me having a dramatic weight loss which involves a 21 day fix or paleo, etc....this journey is about me loving myself and believing that I am worthy of taking care of.  Self-love is the journey and my motivation.  The weight loss will come along with that just as the gain did all those years of self-loathing and hate.   It may be slow, but I need to go at my own pace.  I will push myself, challenge myself, and have days of failure, but it's one day at a time and a step backwards doesn't mean "I" am a failure or that I can use that as an excuse to quit my journey.

I look forward to this year and the opportunities that await.


Sunday, September 28, 2014

feelings

tonight i am feeling so damn alone.  and my heart is hurting so damn bad.  we experienced a major bump in the road of life this afternoon and it's bringing stuff up to the surface and making me face some of my demons.  as much work as i have done working through issues, the major fear of being left or rejected still remains.  how to articulate the feeling is difficult.

so in my usual way of attempting to manage my feelings, i have been working on tasks so i can feel accomplished about something.  scrubbed the toilet - check.  got the kids fundraising stuff completed - check.  and now i sit to work on the teacher letter i need to write (and have been meaning to do) for the youngest child.  this is probably not the optimal time to be doing so.  he had a blow up earlier and the aftermath rocked us all.  of course, i am the one who will hang onto the aftermath & all it's shit. and the letter in which i share my son's strengths and weaknesses is just too much for tonight.

i feel tender, scared, apprehensive, guilty, and alone.  and i knew i needed to process feelings rather than stuff them, so i sat down to write.  this is so short and doesn't share a great deal, but this post is my life preserver this evening. 

Tuesday, September 2, 2014

First Days

A ship is safe in harbor, but that's not what ships are for.

It's the first day of school in this neck of the woods and my eldest joined the middle school ranks.  I have never cried at the first day of school.  Daycare, yes, school, no.  This morning, after she boarded the bus and was on her way, I turned toward the house and was overcome with emotion.  My baby girl is growing up.  

We haven't always done right by her and have been working to change that.  We've protected her a bit too much and sometimes that means she doesn't want to do something or believe that she can do something.  We've tried to fix life for her rather than have her figure it out at times.  And to know where she's come from with her anxiety to seeing how bravely she faced her fears today, it simply make me verklempt.  She shared that she was scared for today last evening, but handled herself with grace and courage.  I am so proud of her.  She is so damn amazing.  The line at the top of the post is one I came across today as someone else shared their emotions of of the first day of school.  I read it and was teary-eyed in seconds.  These kids are our ships and yes, sometimes they need the safety of the harbor.  What they need is the freedom to sail while knowing they have a solid foundation (boat) and that safe harbor to come home to.  

This parenting stuff is hard some days.  Some days are fantastic.  Today was a bit of both.


Tuesday, August 26, 2014

The Universe does it again

I signed up for and receive emails from the Universe. I love reading them and there are many times where the daily email fits for the life moment that is happening.  This is today's......

What if that one person in your life right now that you're not feeling so much love for, Denise, was also the one person in your life right now for whom you could make the greatest difference?

Cool?
    The Universe

This hits so close to home right now, it might as well have dropped a house on top of me.  Rather than working at being upset, I need to address my perspective and work to see how I can be of assistance.  This person is struggling and I don't believe wants to look at just how much they are struggling.  This person is suffering and while I don't have the answers on how to exactly help, I know that I can do better to support this person.  I can stop judging, stop being angry with, stop criticizing, and practice more love, more acceptance, and more support.  

I can understand that at first glance, this comes across as a selfish writing.  What I have learned this last year is that I can only control my own side of the street, no one else's street.  I cannot change this person, but I can change how I react and interact with this person.  And in doing so, help us both.

Thursday, August 21, 2014

Struggling

I have gotten away from writing again, which saddens me.  However, it is not enough to spur me to actually write.  There are moments when I think, "I need to write about this," but it never comes to fruition. 

I am struggling.  Partnership, professionally, personally.  I feel overwhelmed most of the time and often I just shut down emotionally as a response.  I have been working to allow myself to feel emotions, good and bad and all those inbetween, so shutting down is not a good thing. 

I want to get back into expressing myself, but I have this damn fear I need to work through.  I am so tired of being afraid of shit.  I know that opening myself up and being vulnerable will help, but it's so damn scary to do.

Tuesday, January 28, 2014

2013 book list

I fell way behind and didn't capture all the books near the end of the years, but here's for filing purposes. 



1.  The Hobbit by JRR Tolkien
2.  Temptation and Surrender by Stephanie Laurens
3.  Covet by J.R. Ward
4.  Crave by J.R. Ward
5.  Envy by J.R. Ward
6.  We Hope You Like This Song by Bree Housley
7.  Catching Fire by Suzanne Collins
8.  Mockingjay by Suzanne Collins
9.  And Then She Fell by Stephanie Laurens
10.  My Ruthless Prince by Gaelen Foly
11.  Beautiful Disaster by Jamie McGuire
12. Awakened by Brenda Davies
13.  Reinventing Claire by Darian Wilk
14.  Ain't No Sunshine by Leslie DuBois
15.  Autumn's Shadow by Lyn Cote
16.  Lover At Last by J.R. Ward
17. An Unwilling Conquest by Stephanie Laurens
18. Sold by Patricia McCormick
19. Frozen Heat by Richard Castle
20. i'd know you anywhere by Laura Lippman
21. A Change in Altitude by Anita Shreve
22. Dead Witch Walking by Kim Harrison
23.  The Good, The Bad, and the Undead by Kim Harrison
24. Every Which Way But Dead by Kim Harrison
25. What the Duke Desires by Sabrina Jefferies
26. Any Duchess Will Do by Tessa Dare
27. Dance of Seduction by Sabrina Jefferies
28 Switch by Megan Hart
29. After Midnight by Teresa Medeiros
30.  The 5th Wave by Rick Yancey
31. Left for Dead: My Journey Home From Everest by Beck Weathers

Saturday, January 11, 2014

Winter fun day


The kids got ice skates for a gifts this holiday and we headed out to enjoy some evening fun at a nearby park.


It was a blast.  And we discussed snow shoes for future outings.

Thursday, November 7, 2013

appreciation reminder

i was having one of those mornings where nothing seemed to work out in my favor.  i felt frustrated, but not as much as i have in the past, which is a way good thing for me.  i worked to stay positive and it helped.  i had an enjoyable lunch period in which i sat in on a presentation by a speaker that talks about how being an adult and follow these dumb rules kills our fun and laughter.  what he had to say resonated with me greatly.  i headed back to work and learned that a new friend found out she has pancreatic cancer.  she's young and has dealt with a host of medical issues in her young life, and this news is just flattening.  she says she is going to fight like hell and if anyone can, it's her. 

so dear universe, thank you for the reminder to appreciate life and to not take myself to seriously, and to enjoy each stinkin' moment here on earth.  i needed it.  and if i have any pull with you whatsoever, dear universe, please go easy on A.  she is a truly wonderful human being, one that deserves good things to happen to her. 

best,
denise

Monday, October 14, 2013

How My Brain Works 37.1014

This morning the dog comes in from his morning routine and promptly settles in to cleaning himself.  As regularly scheduled, I hear "oh, gross" and "Chewie's cleaning his penis pocket again. Eww!" from the kiddos.  I always catch myself from wanting to call that 'penis pocket' a sheath.  Don't know why.  I have no idea if that is the technical body part name for it or not.  But whenever I think of the word "sheath," I think of this scene from Gladiator.  I can see into the future that I'll be some old grey hair with a male dog, chasing him around yelling "Sheath your sword!"

And that folks, is simply how my brain works.

Saturday, October 5, 2013

N&K, Party II

Highlights from the big day....
















Nikki & Kristin, I am so proud of both of you.  Thank you for allowing me to be a part of your special day.  I wish you years of love, light, laughter, and joy.  All my love, D

N & K, part I

Two weeks ago, I had the extreme honor of witnessing a commitment of two beautiful people, Nikki & Kristin.  After years together, buying a house, raising a herd of pets, they publicly joined together their love.  Unfortunately, in the state of WI, marriage equality is not official.  However, that did not stop them from having one helluvah "fall shindig!" 

Friday Highlights....










And the big day will be in next post....

Friday, October 4, 2013

2013 Ironman WI highlights

On Sept. 8th, 2013, I witnessed a good pal cross the finish line at Ironman WI.  Something he has worked his ass off for.  To watch his journey has been a gift.  Here are some of the highlights of our day....

One of the most incredible ladies I've had the opportunity to meet, Sep's mom.

And Sep's dad.  Seriously, these two have raised an pretty cool human being.

Some year I am going to come to IMWI and watch the swim start from up here.

Just keep swimming.

Finish line against the capital building

Man on the run.  Sep's starting the 26.2 mile piece of the race.

It's blurry, but it's one of my favorite photos of the day.



Sep, aka "The Beard" and one of his groupies.  Seriously, this beard itched like crazy.

What the participants see as they come to the finish line.

And here he comes!

Seth A., you ARE an Ironman